Over the Thanksgiving holiday, two of my best girlfriends (Freya & Carolyn), and I journeyed to the Caribbean island of Anguilla. Carolyn had entered a competition earlier in the year, and having not won anything in her life, received an email saying she had won the trip to Anguilla + a haul of other awesome prizes! She & I share a Sagittarius birthday week (she Nov 24th & I Dec 1st), so she kindly invited Freya & I to paradise with her to celebrate our birthdays! (Friends who win & then share Caribbean holidays, are the best types of friends!)
This is not a travel post, however I wanted to preface with our location, because I can without a doubt say, that the best trips, and most empowering trips, and most heart wide open trips, are those I have taken with my best girlfriends; which brings me to the topic of this post.
We had a thousand conversations while we where away. Over wine at dinner, over cocktails while reading by the pool, and some without any alcoholic beverages at all – (shocking, I know!) But there is something so incredibly powerful about ‘by the way’ conversations that happened when you are removed from your normal, everyday environment. Not the ones where you meet up for a coffee & have to run an errand after, but ones that seemingly have not time frame on them.
Over the weekend, we spoke about, and then revisited, and then often revisited again conversations about love, life, past experiences, what we learnt from them, travel, career & business.
Each of us work in very different fields, and have very different ambitions on what we want to achieve in our career. What I thought was beautiful, and is one of the many things I admire about both these women, is that in each of their speaking’s of what they want to achieve next in their career journey’s, both spoke about the process outside of themselves; what do I mean by? Well, rather then just what they would gain & wanted to achieve by their ambition & dream, they spoke about how they wanted to have greater impact on other because of it. And just like when a boy doesn’t text you back, we dissected every element of this as a group. It was fascinating, and empowering & inspiring to be around.
And the best question we asked each other over the course of the weekend? ‘How can I best support you in this?’ – what an powerful question.
I remember when I first started out, I was so anti-asking anyone for help, I didn’t want to be a burden to anyone, when the reality was, all the people offering their help to me; wanted to help. Not only did I burden myself & slow down the possibly progress of what I was trying to do, but I kept kindly declining help, so people just stopped asking.
You don’t need to be the CEO of an incorporated company to have a team around you – you don’t even have to have a business – YOU are a business, you are brand YOU! And your team, is your family & friends – as YOU are THEIR team also.
One of our other conversations was around the concept of Jim Rohn’s statement ‘you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with’. How incredibly powerful, or how horrifically dangerous, that could be. Choose your tribe well. Choose people who speak with integrity. Choose people who are good listeners. Choose people who are honest. Choose people with ambition – they don’t have to have their sights on being President (although, given the current state of affairs, they probably COULD), ambition doesn’t have to relate to business; ambition is to anything where you are growing & actively seeking more – a higher state of being. Choose people with open minds. Choose people who have opinions but are kind. Choose people who will have your back, no matter what.
If you want to be uplifted. Uplift others.
If you want to be listened to. Be a god listener.
If you want people to invest in you. Invest in others.
Reflect what you want to receive.
Find your tribe. Love them hard. And I guarantee, if you ask them 'how can I best support you?' They will ask you the same thing. - SWx
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